Divorce
is fruit of bad roots. Most marriages begin in lust or being in love
with being in love. You need to find the one you are compatible with.
Unconditionally. People don't seem to understand that. Marriage is
not, no matter what you believe, just a commitment to the other
person. It's a commitment to God that you love that person as Christ
has loved the church. That's how it was designed from the beginning.
No matter what you believe. So, maybe you married the "wrong"
person. When you married that person, they became the right person
and now, you must be the right person for them. Marriage is work.
Hard work. Not magic. Marriage is communication. Not assuming the
other should know everything I'm thinking. Marriage is open and
sometimes painful. No secrets. NO SECRETS. I'm referring to "normal"
marriages, for lack of a better word. I understand that one must seek
outside help for an abusive relationship. I understand your safety
and childrens safety are of priority. But, even then, with Gods help,
a marriage can be saved and flourish. It's a matter of the heart.
Only God can intervene there. Every story is different. You can't
just throw a blanket on it and say there's your answer. But, no
matter what is in the past, you can change the future. Be open and
slow to anger. Breathe. Listen. Pray for help. Ask for forgiveness.
Be forgiving. You are a team. Not 50-50 but 100%-100%. All in. One
more thing. Find an older mature person of the same gender as you
that has a good marriage that you can go to. Someone who has beaten
the typical challenges of life and marriage. One who is walking
upright and true with God. Not your stupid friends at the bar. Not
the ones that talk bad about their own marriages and try to give you
advice. Someone you can respect and trust.
